Helping our kids build resilience

We want our kids to grow up and understand how to stand up for themselves, how to combat negative comments and how to handle tough obstacles life throws at us. 

We need to learn not to just react when our kids give us certain news maybe about them being picked on at school or a team mate said something negative towards them but to teach the kids to learn to handle situations to build resilience. 

We want to give them the right tools to handle the situation themselves so when they’re older they can do it without needing to rely on someone else.

Before we just react lets try some of these new tactics: 

• - Remember  our kids model appropriate behaviour. If we fly off the rails and the child will think that’s ok. We need to breath and be calm when talking about the situation. If we overact the child will be less likely to come to us with issues in the future. You need to listen hug and listen. Praise them for telling you and ask them what they need right now. 

• - First find facts – yes, it’s your child but that’s only one side of the story. 

• - Don’t take over – the child needs to feel empowered they need to be part of every step taken as this is part of the healing process. 

• - Collect evidence about the situation - there is always two sides to a story. 

• - Teach your child positive adjectives to add to any mean words being said – for example if our child gets called short we can teach them to take  the negative power away from the comment and give positive power to it by saying - yes, I am beautiful and short. 

Lets give our kids every tool we can to help them grow up in this crazy world.